One of the reasons you might need to have a mediator present when you discuss finances and parenting after separation is because there is domestic violence (DV).
Feeling forced to behave in certain ways or feeling like you have no option but to do as the other parent says are indications that you could be experiencing DV. It’s not just about physical violence. Coercion, or being forced to do do things by the other parent, is a form of DV. It leaves you feeling exhausted and powerless.
Having a mediator with you when discussing post separation issues can help address that power imbalance. the mediator doesn’t take sides.
Mediators assess for power imbalances and can refer you for help.
Tess from Argyll mediation is trained and experienced in managing situations where DV is making post separation difficult.